"my baby daddy aint shit!"
*sigh* no, I don't have any kids (thank GOD!), but if I hear one more female utter this statement, I will puke. I remember listening to an interlude once. 'matter fact, it was Eddie Griffin on Dre's Chronic album I believe. You know, the one with "Forgot About Dre" on it. Hell I forgot, Eddie did a lil "Biggest Ho's" skit on there. Google is phenomenal, y'all go check that out. Anyways, it was kinda funny, but then again its not. I mean, am I the only female around here with common sense or what?! Hello?!? Quit relieving your stress with just any 'ole body and you wouldn't have this problem. "he don't pay child support" "he don't come watch his kid" "blah blah blah whine whine whine" just shut the hell up already. Is it just me, or should you have considered that this "worthless fucker" as you termed it could possibly be a father of your kid?! I don't understand why females stay with these males who treat them like shit, and then expect the dude to miraculously turn into that loving dependable guy after the baby is born. Think again.Anywho, I guess you could consider this the "Female bashing" part of my "females are dumb" rant. Whatever you may call it. I'll even use Baby Boy as an example too. If you've seen the movie, you'll know what I'm talking about. Over and over, Jodi's (Tyrese) mother tells him that "your daddy aint shit" and "you act just like him". I have absolutley no respect for females like this. No man is perfect, but damn. Yeah yeah, he was a good man in the beginning then he changed, blah blah blah, excuses excuses. Let's be real here, baby momma is just as much as fault as the "aint shit" baby daddy. YOU fuck up and damn near choose this guy to be your kid's father, and then bring up YOUR bad choice to the kid everyday?! Let's see what long term effects this may have shall we?
1) the kid grows up thinking something along the lines of "well I don't have a daddy, therefore I'm less than a man". or how about "since my daddy aint shit, I guess i'm destined to not be shit since every dude momma is with "aint shit". or "i guess its meant for me to treat females like shit, since i see momma allowing shit to happen to her"
2) "well, I guess men are supposed to treat me like shit since Daddy treated momma like shit" or how about "I don't care who my baby daddy is.....I'm independent enough to raise him myself"
I mean, damn, just set an example for once. Just go with the "everytime I spread my legs like the Noah did the Red sea, I'm chosing a father for my future kid" mentallity and you'll be fine. Trust me. There would be a lot less "fucking", STD's, single parent households, and everything going on (pardon my french). And come on, that's really mature of you to talk about the kid's father to his face. I don't care how "in his life" he is. Children see shit for themselves. They certainly don't need you to put negative shit in their minds. We all know how great of a decision-maker you are anyways. Get a blog, a journal, or something else to vent to. Not the kids please.
The bottom line is this: If a guy doesn't give a damn about you, chances are, he won't respect you as the mother of his child. So why chance it.
...to be continued....
Labels: ...black folks, can i get an "Amen"
posted by ~Kesh @ 2/06/2006 03:52:00 PM
2 Comments:
ms kesh, boy when you rant you rant girl. well speaking as a single parent i have to reply to this entry. my baby daddy aint shit! girl he didn't buy no pampers, he don't spend no time with my boy, okay okay.... before you delete this entry let me fill you in..... i got pregnant when i was 16 years old. my son's father was 19 years old. i was too young to spot the no body's. the thing is.... the average woman that will say "my baby daddy aint shit" will probably tell you that they knew the daddy no more than 3 months before a child was conceived. a lot of times, the pregnancy was an accident. so this woman/girl is in a predicament. she doesn't really know the father but she's pregnant. get rid of the nobody's child or give birth? hmmm
i totally agree with what you said about "consider if you want this man to be the father of your children before you, i believe you said, spread it like noah spread the red sea." good stuff don't get me wrong, but a lot of women got pregnant before common sense took its course. just trying to clue you into the way the "other side" feels.
I'm glad you took the time to reply. I don't delete posts unless you come at me ignorant-like, but interstingly enough I let someone else in on my thoughts, and the only thing they got out of it was "Noah didn't part the Red sea....Moses did".
...okay okay, I got the two dudes confused. But that's besides the point. Yeah, I guess I can see where you're coming from...I know its hard out there raising kids. As a matter of fact, I probably wouldn't be here if my momma and "aint shit" daddy didn't screw each other.
But still...children don't ask to be born. All I'm asking is continue being a parent. And that means letting them form their own opinions on their dead beat parents.
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