enosynce is virtuous

How to avoid a "Hell Date", Keshstyle...

...the ideal first date is simplisticly platonic, in a comfortable location catering to both your interests, and includes great conversation. Therefore:


~Schedule the date specific to each other's schedules.

~Place a courtesy call just to make sure. This means don't wait for the other person to call to let them know you can't make it and need a raincheck

~Arrive on time.

~Don't go "to the movies" on the first date. The idea is to TALK...get to know the person face to face...make the person the center of your attention, at least for that night.


~Do meet up at a central location. This means have your own means of transportation, and your own funds for activities. This means if you're going out for drinks and he handles the first round, offer to handle the second round (not too much though...wine sneaks up on you) This means if you're going out for a light dinner and he foots the bill, handle the tip. This does not mean a $2 tip will take care of things. Now, each of you plan on running your mouths, and I'm pretty sure the waitress would rather you chomp your gums elsewhere (preferrably at McDonalds with that cheap mess) so that someone with real tip money can sit in their section.


~Show some dang blasted affection. This means get to loopin' those arms. Wrap your arm around his waist. Hell, hold hands. Act like you like each other. Sheesh


~Have the decency to cut your cell phone off. This means be respectful enough of the time you have with the person. Time is money, so be greatful. No calls from Momma telling you to pick up collards. No textverstions between you and homeboy, featuring porn avatars. No distractions.


~Don't talk about ex's. Now you've shifted his mind and attention to the ex.


~This may be just me, but do not ask why the person is single. This implies that there's something "wrong" with that person. You're adults. You get into relationships. Sometimes they work out. Obviously it didn't, which is the reason for the date. You learn lessons. You move on.


~End the date positively and respectfully. A smooch and a hug is fine. Then mosey on over to your car, leave, and courtesy call after you arrive home safely



...all the single ladies....all the single ladies

Labels: ain't that interesting, relationships

posted by ~Kesh @ 4/14/2009 11:05:00 AM